Tag Archives: Forgiveness

Sticks and Stones

2 Mar

My Take

DiVoran Lites

When I was a child and other children called me names, mother always said to ignore them or say: “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”  Mother was trying to comfort me and at the time I accepted the words as true even though there was a niggling in the back of my mind about them.

Lately, the Lord has let me see and hear many of the names I have been called since about high school. There’s a grand array of them. And although some are crude, others are clever and have a bit more color to them.

Maybe everyone calls other people by unsavory names. I’m sure I do, but blessedly, I’m not being reminded of my sins in this area at this time. That would be heavy to bear. Besides, Jesus washed away all our sins, he threw them as far as the east is from the west never to think of them again.  

Robert Burns said in one of his poems, (the one that has the lady with a flea on her hat) “Oh that we could see ourselves as other people see us.” Uhh, how about changing that to: oh, that we could see ourselves as God sees us?

I’ve been reading some wonderful scripture today. It’s from Psalm 91 and it says: “The uncompromisingly righteous shall flourish like the palm tree, be long-lived, stately, upright, useful, and fruitful: they shall grow like a cedar in Lebanon-majestic, stable, durable, and incorruptible. They shall still bring forth fruit in old age; they shall be full of sap and spiritual vitality and rich in trust, love, and contentment. They are living memorials to show that I, the Lord am upright and faithful to my promises; I am your rock, and there is no unrighteousness in Me.” (Rom. 9:14). 

Now, isn’t that wonderful? Wouldn’t you rather hear something like that about yourself than being called bad names? I would. Of course, I will be treated as I treat others, so I’m sure I’ve got a ways to go. But anyhow for peace of mind and encouragement, we can’t beat the love and approval of God our Father, Jesus the Son, and Holy Spirit the messenger. 

I forgive all the people who have called me by unsavory names over these many years. Whoever you are, wherever you are, I pray you will forgive me for the times when I have hurt you.

Heavenly Father, thank you for blessing us with showers of love every single day we live and even when we die.

Showers of Blessing

Author, Poet and Artist

DiVoran has been writing for most of her life. Her first attempt at a story was when she was seven years old and her mother got a new typewriter. DiVoran got to use it and when her dad saw her writing he asked what she was writing about. DiVoran answered that she was writing the story of her life. Her dad’s only comment was, “Well, it’s going to be a very short story.” After most of a lifetime of writing and helping other writers, DiVoran finally launched her own dream which was to write a novel of her own. She now has her Florida Springs trilogy and her novel, a Christian Western Romance, Go West available on Amazon. When speaking about her road to publication, she gives thanks to the Lord for all the people who helped her grow and learn.  She says, “I could never have done it by myself, but when I got going everything fell beautifully into place, and I was glad I had started on my dream.”

Today I choose to Forgive

25 Sep
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How to live a clean, happy life: three promises

23 Apr

Walking by Faith, Not by Sight

Janet Perez Eckles

Janet Eckles Perez


ouch“Ouch! Ouch!”…that’s what I wanted to say, but I couldn’t.

My fault entirely. I let my routine teeth cleaning go beyond the six month. And although I’m the queen of flossing and teeth brushing, I paid a painful price at the dentist chair.

There I was, mouth wide open, bib placed under my chin, and sucking hose hanging from the side. The scraping began.

Oh, friends, I’m not talking normal gentle scraping. Oh no. Actually, I think the dental hygienist had pent up frustrations for a year and this was her moment to let them out.

The furious metal scrapes against my teeth could be heard in the parking lot. And unable to let my pain be known each time the metal hook jabbed my gum, my heart begged, “mercy, mercy!”

May I ask you—aren’t you glad we don’t have to go through that awful, grueling scraping during the cleaning process of our sins? I’m mighty grateful for that. If I look back at the overdue routine episodes of repentance, those sins would need industrial scraping.

But God is so very merciful. His cleaning is gentle but His calling firm. He declares three truths:

  1. No sin is too dark for Him
  2. No flaw too deep to correct.
  3. No mistake too serious to erase

David knew this. He sat in the chair of repentance, heart wide open. He looked up: “Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin” (Psalm 51:1-2).

God’s promise to you and to me: “…Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool” (Isaiah 1:18).

Source: How to live a clean, happy life: three promises. | Janet Perez Eckles

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The Choice That Set Us Free

17 Aug

Walking by Faith, Not by Sight

Janet Perez Eckles

Janet Eckles Perez


“Turn that off,” I finally said to my husband as I walked in the TV room.

The nightly news blared yet another angle of the George Zimmerman case. The sad details stirred painful memories of our own trial—the prosecution of the man who killed our 19 year-old-son 10 years ago here in Florida. The man who stabbed him 23 times pled self-defense and the verdict also declared: not guilty of all counts.

The rage, the injustice and the protest that has been dominating the media were familiar to us. But more importantly, the details remind us of the decision my husband and I made back then. After nights of diligent prayer for strength. After pleading God for comfort. And after claiming the victory He would bring, we made the choice. The decision to forgive the killer.

The process wasn’t easy, nor the task simple. We chose to forgive because God had instructed us to do so. Were we such good Christians that we would obey? Not really. But we were desperate to be set free from anger or resentment that could’ve held us prisoners.

God said to forgive. But he also said without Him we can do nothing. He said not seek vengeance. But He also said Vengeance belongs to Him. He said to find joy in Him. But He also said to have a heart free of malice.

We found the peace that goes beyond all understanding. We learned firsthand the freedom that forgiveness brings. We found that tragedy happens, evil abounds, but triumph through the power of God is possible.

Writing about this episode is not easy. But the price Jesus paid for murderers wasn’t easy either.

Media hosts have asked me during interviews: What words would you say to the mother of a victim to murder?

I would say three things:

*Seek God’s help for the grieving process. Although it’s impossible to overcome the pain without His help, the journey is different for everyone.

*Be careful to choose what fills your mind. The mentality of a victim never reaches victory.

*Honor your child’s life by turning this painful episode to a powerful message. I suggest inviting those who have a high profile and are outspoken folks to use that same energy, passion and efforts to teach, to encourage and show young people of ALL ages the evil of violence, the value of self-control and the power of forgiveness.

“For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Matthew 6:14.

Since Jesus gave us the power to forgive, our family’s loss turned to the gain of God’s gift. The gift of freedom wrapped in forgiveness.

For we know that unforgiveness is the chain that keeps us bound. And Forgiveness is the choice that sets us free.

The full story is included in Janet’s #1 best-selling book Simply Salsa: Dancing Without Fear at God’s Fiesta. http://amzn.to/pwDntn

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