Seeking Peace-Halting Mean Thoughts

24 May

On the Porch

Onisha Ellis

I saw this on a friend’s Facebook page this week.


I was feeling fairly comfortable with myself until the last one on the list…mean thoughts.

I am so guilty of this. In fact I am good at this! I can spin an intricate web of mean thoughts complete with vengeful scenarios. I figured that if I didn’t speak my mean thoughts they were harmless. I was wrong.

Mean thoughts harm the soul just as mean words harm those they to whom they are aimed.

Since I have been meditating on peace I have come to realize how destructive the mean thoughts are to me. There is no peace in mental revenge.

I still utter words like idiot when I read or hear something that in my opinion is off the wall. I’m not sure I will ever be able to curb that reaction, but when the incident lingers in my thoughts, I am reminding myself to silently pray a blessing upon the person. This frees me from feeling that I need to set that person straight.

Side note, I am a southerner and I am not referring to the double meaning, “well bless her heart.”


Love Does not indulge in mean thinking.

Joy Choosing joy removes the mean thoughts.

Peace Comes when I choose blessing over plotting.

12 Responses to “Seeking Peace-Halting Mean Thoughts”

  1. Timelesslady May 26, 2019 at 3:12 am #

    Hi Onisha, I linked back to your wise words in today’s post. Thanks again for this thought-provoking post. Kathy

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  2. Daniel Kemp May 25, 2019 at 4:44 am #

    I’m not bad at having mean thoughts and I do try not to, but……..


    • Onisha Ellis May 27, 2019 at 10:16 pm #

      Your mean thoughts can be put to excellent use in the books you write. Cathartic.

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Timelesslady May 24, 2019 at 6:00 pm #

    I was struggling with this today! I was in the garden doing what I love to do and the devil just filled my thoughts with trash and created a mean spirit in me. Sure, some people have really done me wrong, but I only hurt my own hours by dwelling on it and thinking mean. I’m glad you wrote this and included the wisdom. Makes me feel better that I am not alone.

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    • Onisha Ellis May 24, 2019 at 9:15 pm #

      I think part of the lie we are fed is that we are the only ones who struggle with issues. It is comforting to know that others face similar struggles. Thank you for sharing.

      Liked by 1 person

  4. divoran09 May 24, 2019 at 2:39 pm #

    This was really wonderful and breakthrough thinking. I have the same battle. It’s like starting out to think ill of someone or something and just going down the slope of the miry clay into the quick-sand of meanness. I regularly include myself in the mean thoughts, which demoralizes me too. Thanks for being so beautifully honest. I liked the comment from your other friend as well.

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    • Onisha Ellis May 24, 2019 at 2:45 pm #

      it’s a thought by thought struggle for sure. 46 years ago my mother-in-law’s ways drove me to distraction. That is when God began dealing with me on this..Took 46 years to get to where I recognize what I am doing. And now, I am thankful for her ways that drove me crazy.! And for you, take those demoralizing thoughts and smack them down with the knowledge that you are a beautiful and valuable creation of the Father. Love you, my friend.

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  5. ludyja May 24, 2019 at 1:42 pm #

    Alta, you have hit the nail on the head – at least for me! What you wrote is EXACTLY what I have in my own life. Thanks for the reminder that those mean thoughts actually harm ME! It makes me feel rather “two-faced” since the face I present to others is fun and sweet! Well, we shall try to be better about that. Again, thanks.

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    • Onisha Ellis May 24, 2019 at 2:39 pm #
    • Onisha Ellis May 24, 2019 at 2:40 pm #

      Thanks for sharing, Judy. It’s good to know I am not the only one who struggles with this. You and I both have minds that react quickly and it is easy to slip into it.



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