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Avoid these three traps when facing impossibilities.

21 Dec

Walking by Faith, Not by Sight

Janet Perez Eckles

Reblogged December 20, 2019

Whoever said life is not easy was wrong, totally wrong. Life is sometimes extremely hard, painful, and impossible to endure.

And we mistakenly look for this time of year to change that. Christmas was meant to be the most wonderful time of the year. If that’s so, why is the suicide rate at its highest during this season?

Maybe the reason is because while most are singing, shopping and decorating, others are in a different place. They’re sinking in heartache. The season’s festivities intensify their grief, while believing they’re the only ones suffering, lonely or lost.

And those sentiments, like a brick wall, build up, creating a barrier impossible to overcome.

Have you been there?

We all have. When adversity of any kind barges in, our focus goes to the circumstance, the challenge, and the obstacle.

And when this happens, we throw on our let-me-solve-this cape. Then with flawed determination, we charge to fix what is in the way. But rather than success, we often come crushing down in defeat.

The reason is because this is not God’s way. His way might be to allow things to fall apart in such a way that we have no option but to trust in him. To come to him for help. And to seek his answers.

It was impossible, or was it?

That’s why God chose an impossible situation to tell us, no, change that, to show us that with him, impossibilities are no barriers at all. For example, an older woman, barren for many years is now pregnant? Impossible. And a girl, pure and a virgin, pregnant? Impossible.

“How will this be,” Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?”

The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So, the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God. Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be barren is in her sixth month. For nothing is impossible with God” (Luke 1:34-37).

That “nothing is impossible” includes your own situation, your struggle and your pain. And like Mary, you see that scenario as impossible. Mary couldn’t see the logic. We don’t either. Mary saw the circumstance instead. We see our own, too. Mary questioned how it could be. And so, do we.

But then Christmas happened. God Himself came to earth in the flesh so we would not have a doubt that He’s here for our impossibilities. He’s here for those moments of anguish when life is too much. He’s here, alive to shield us from our destructive anxiety.

But to allow him to work that into our circumstance, we must avoid these three traps:

  1. Toss out all poor me We have the King of Kings, the creator of the universe to lift us to the mountain of victory. How will he manage that? We don’t need to know the how, only need to declare that He will.
  2. Don’t look at the circumstance. Instead, focus on the certainty of His promise. His Word that says that with him all will turn around and miracles will happen.
  3. Don’t give up. Perseverance is the secret to reaching the finish line, to win the prize and to receive the medal of triumph.

Let’s pray.

Father, I confess my failure to believe in the miracles you promise. Thank you for your patience with me as I wait to see my impossible situation turn to an immense miracle. In Jesus’ name.

What impossibility will God make possible for you today?

Janet

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How to find triumph in tragedy

24 Dec

Walking by Faith, Not by Sight

Janet Perez Eckles

hanging-stockings

My son Joe’s empty stocking on the fireplace seared my heart. It had been twelve years since Joe’s tragic death.

Christmas no longer called for a celebration. Not anymore. Not when you have a vital part of your life missing. Festivities don’t have the joy they should.

And Christmas trees don’t emanate the usual scent.

Actually, my days needed to erase the Christmases, the birthdays, the holidays—all ushered pain rather than delight. They reminded me of what I once had and now what was gone.

The world celebrated, greetings of good wishes filled the room. But when tragedy turns your world upside down, no amount of cheer can bring clarity to the fog of sadness.

Strange, though, often, it’s the scorching pain that forces our eyes to open to a bigger picture. It did for me as I rewound memories of past Christmases.

Years ago, when our three sons, including Joe, were still young, I focused on providing a perfect Christmas; a perfect tree to wrap a perfect celebration. As a result, little things tended to roil in me such as a light strand that refused to shine because of a burned bulb. Annoyed at the glitch, I promptly set off to resolve it. I fussed, I rearranged, plugged and unplugged until frustration grew hot in me.

How foolish and silly. I focused on that one bulb, dismissing the glow of the star atop the Christmas tree.

I’ve done the same with light bulbs that burned in my life—from broken relationships to shattered plans. Exerting tons of energy trying to fix them, I missed Christ, the newborn King—the star that gave significance to my life. The star that covers shadows of gloom and sorrow.

Joe’s memories changed—his sweet smile, his tender hugs and his sense of humor now sit atop of my life, casting off that glow to bring back the joy.

To remind me that he’s not gone, not from my heart, not from my mind, nor have the images of his spunky self vanished.

When that void in our heart aches to be filled, it’s Christ’s star of comfort that makes it whole. When bitter sorrow robs the spirit of Christmas, it’s the star of His everlasting love that whispers joy. When a health diagnosis shakes our world, it’s His star of reassurance that shines the certainty of new tomorrows. When our finances rob our security, it’s the star of God’s provision that ushers the radiance of reassurance. It’s the same star that never loses the brilliance of hope. The hope that, through Christ, tragedies turn to triumph.

Source: How to find triumph in tragedy. | Janet Perez Eckles

For Those Who Mourn

30 Nov

Hello friends, for those who have experienced the death of a loved one, the holiday season is often difficult. Even with the best intentions and knowledge of God’s provision, we still experience grief and mourn. Acknowledging this, I decided to share DiVoran’s  beautiful Promise Poster -Onisha

My Take

DiVoran Lites

Violet Mourning

DiVoran’s Promise Posters, Paintings from Go West as well as other art can be purchased as note cards  and framable art

Creative Arts

To view more of DiVoran’s inspirational Promise Posters and Meditation Musings visit Rebekah Lyn Books

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