Get Over It and Move On

30 Jan

On The  Porch

Onisha Ellis

I'm a winner

My friend DiVoran and I were having a lively chat one day when  get over it came up. On the surface it seems like a rude, heartless thing to say, but is it?

I remember the times I said  “get over it and move on” to my teenage daughter after her first big heartbreak. She really hated when I said that, but what I was really saying was, work through this, stop letting it control you.

It takes courage, faith and work to overcome a broken heart, hurt feelings and disappointments. We don’t get over it without dealing with the situation. These are the actions I use when I need to get over it.

First I pray. I let God know I am counting on Him for help to accomplish these steps.

  • Determine to accept the situation. I don’t have to like it.
  • Accept responsibility for my actions. Yes, even if I feel justified.
  • Grieve the loss. I believe a time of grieving is a vital part of healing.
  • Choose to let go of the pain or anger. I can’t heal as long as I am hanging on to it.
  • Best of all, forgive.  Carrying a grudge can be a mighty heavy load.

Do I do this everyday and in every situation? Nope, but I wish I did. Guess I’m still  learning.

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8 Responses to “Get Over It and Move On”

  1. divoran09 February 1, 2014 at 10:50 am #

    I loved this post. Thanks for the mention. Our talks do yield wondrous insights for both of us.

    Love, DiVoran

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  2. thestagesofme January 31, 2014 at 12:27 am #

    So true when we don’t forgive we are only limiting ourselves from the work God has for us to do gor Him. Good points Here 🙂

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  3. Louise Gib son January 30, 2014 at 7:41 am #

    Alta, that is so insightful. Emotionally painful experiernces take a long time in healing, and very often leave a scar, but we come through them a little stronger and often wiser..

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  4. Mark Myers January 30, 2014 at 7:30 am #

    Agreed. And sometimes you have to forgive without ever being apologized to. That’s the hardest.

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    • Old Things R New January 30, 2014 at 10:01 am #

      Forgiving before someone apologizes is the hardest part at first, but as I began to experience the freedom of forgiveness the most amazing thing happened. The apology became an after thought instead of the main issue.

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting Mark.

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  5. divoran09 January 30, 2014 at 7:24 am #

    Excellent post in every way!

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