On The Porch
Onisha Ellis
My friend DiVoran and I were having a lively chat one day when get over it came up. On the surface it seems like a rude, heartless thing to say, but is it?
I remember the times I said “get over it and move on” to my teenage daughter after her first big heartbreak. She really hated when I said that, but what I was really saying was, work through this, stop letting it control you.
It takes courage, faith and work to overcome a broken heart, hurt feelings and disappointments. We don’t get over it without dealing with the situation. These are the actions I use when I need to get over it.
First I pray. I let God know I am counting on Him for help to accomplish these steps.
- Determine to accept the situation. I don’t have to like it.
- Accept responsibility for my actions. Yes, even if I feel justified.
- Grieve the loss. I believe a time of grieving is a vital part of healing.
- Choose to let go of the pain or anger. I can’t heal as long as I am hanging on to it.
- Best of all, forgive. Carrying a grudge can be a mighty heavy load.
Do I do this everyday and in every situation? Nope, but I wish I did. Guess I’m still learning.
Old Things R New 
I loved this post. Thanks for the mention. Our talks do yield wondrous insights for both of us.
Love, DiVoran
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So true when we don’t forgive we are only limiting ourselves from the work God has for us to do gor Him. Good points Here 🙂
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Alta, that is so insightful. Emotionally painful experiernces take a long time in healing, and very often leave a scar, but we come through them a little stronger and often wiser..
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WAe do indeed, Mrs Gibson. Thanks for commenting.
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Agreed. And sometimes you have to forgive without ever being apologized to. That’s the hardest.
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Forgiving before someone apologizes is the hardest part at first, but as I began to experience the freedom of forgiveness the most amazing thing happened. The apology became an after thought instead of the main issue.
Thanks for stopping by and commenting Mark.
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Excellent post in every way!
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Thank you, DiVoran. You are so kind and encouraging.
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