Letting Go

22 Jun

My Take

DiVoran Lites

Author, Poet and ArtistWhen Bill retired, I had no idea what I was going to do with him. It was the same old story that happens when people retire. The retiree is lost and feels a need to go back to work. Bill had nothing of his own to do. He could only relate to what I was doing. He told me how and to do laundry, wanted the dishes in the dishwasher placed just right, wanted to take me everywhere he went, and expected my full attention when I was trying to concentrate on my own writing.

Now don’t get me wrong. I love Bill dearly, even after fifty-seven years of marriage. But at retirement time I had the normal aversion to change, and to adjusting to someone else being in the house most of the time.

It wasn’t long until Bill got a chance to learn to fly model airplanes — something he has loved all his life. Then, thank Heaven, he was out of the house for several hours every morning. That helped.

Eventually I got him to go down for a nap in the afternoons. I take one and I thought it would be good if he took one too. Now he loves it.

As time went on, he added volunteering at a church to help with their Car Care ministry on Saturdays. Then he started going to the fitness center. All was well.

Slowly, though, airplanes started crashing because of electronic interference. He was going to have to learn to fly in an entirely different way – a computer way.

We each have our own computer and have been working on them for years, but we need a lot of help with them. We have computer angels who make house calls and one that we can trust that we pay, so we’re blessed in that way, but none of them is interested in flying airplanes.

Bill had a friend who volunteered with the Valiant Air Command museum and so he decided in order to still have airplane time, to spend one morning a week doing that. He has made new friends and enjoys meeting people from all over the world.



Then he decided he wanted to travel around the U. S. and visit other airplane museums and attend fly-ins. At first he invited me to go, but I’m more of a stay-at-home type. We’re a rare type and most people don’t understand us. Did you know that?

The more he traveled, the more of his non-traveling life it took up. He now spends hours at the computer making the most detailed and meticulous plans you ever saw. Then he goes on a trip. He started out going only for one week, but then expanded it to two. He had to, there are many museums to see. Sometimes he visits as many as eight in one day. He travels fast, and he travels cheap. When he comes home he organizes his pictures, and his notes, and writes blogs. When the whole journey has been precisely documented, he starts planning the next one.

Proverbs 3:5-6Amplified Bible (AMP)

5 Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.

6 In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths.

5 Responses to “Letting Go”

  1. Old Things R New June 23, 2015 at 9:11 pm #

    It’s good to know that other people have these adjustments. I am so thankful for MIke’s workshop. Best investment ever AND he makes some pretty cool stuff!


  2. timelessitaly June 23, 2015 at 11:46 am #

    Retirement can make or break a couple. You two are dealing with it perfectly!

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Louise Gibson June 22, 2015 at 8:45 am #

    Retirement can be a real challenge, particularly for the guys. Having a hobby is one constructive way. You seem to be handling it very well, Bill.


    • Louise Gibson June 22, 2015 at 8:49 am #

      H-m-m, I seem to have made an error. I didn’t think the first reply went through. : – )


  4. Louise Gibson June 22, 2015 at 8:41 am #

    Retirement can be a real problem, particularly for the guys. Filling the void in their life with something constructive is one of the biggest challenges.
    You seem to being handling it very well, Bill. Your writings are very interesting.


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