Speak Up Saturday- Psychological Soup Pot

26 May

The first time I heard about Charlene’s soup pot, I knew I wanted to share her wisdom with my friends. Many of us have been placed in a care-giver position and been overwhelmed with well meaning advice

My Blog Soup

 Charlene Spangler

Writing a blog has been simmering in my psychological soup pot for a few weeks now. My mom asked me to write about my coping soup. I developed this mental strategy when my father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer. There was so much good advice and so many ideas coming at us with lightening speed, I quickly became overwhelmed.

When I tell people I will put their ideas or advice into my soup, what I mean is, “Thank you for your wonderful idea. I can’t respond right now because I’m on overload, so I will think on it for a while and see how I can incorporate your thoughtful tidbit”.

I have many pots of soup:.my home, family, job, tasks, and future. Each soup has its own base, stock, or broth. Ingredients and seasonings are added as they come along. My current home soup might be that the lawn needs to be replaced. That’s a big pot of soup. The ingredients are cost, time, design choices and such. Some ingredients, like choosing the type of grass, cook quickly like noodles and can come out of the pot in no time…That’s easy. There is only one type  of grass that will work for our yard. Other ingredients are, like carrots, tougher and take longer to cook. Do we save up (takes time) or borrow (costs more), which is best for us?

Just like mom’s chicken noodle soup, giving my coping soups some time and letting the ingredients blend and mature usually makes for a better outcome than trying to please everybody and respond immediately to all. It also makes people feel better for their ideas to be accepted even if they have to wait for results. Now my blog soup is done. I hope it tastes good.

Psalm 19:14

3 Responses to “Speak Up Saturday- Psychological Soup Pot”

  1. Linda Lewis July 26, 2012 at 4:58 pm #

    I love this post. The ‘soup’ idea is really creative, and it DOES taste good. A great idea that I will put in MY soup and see what good comes of it. Thank you, Charlene.


  2. DiVoran May 26, 2012 at 5:17 pm #

    The psychological soup concept Charlene writes about has personally affected me in many areas of my life. I’m one of the people who always has bright ideas and I love it when my ideas are accepted and respected. On the other hand, I have a hard time taking advice. Before I learned the soup technique I could dish it out but I couldn’t stomach it. Now, however, I have been trying to be patient and gracious when someone tries to help me and in the process I have been inspired with many good and workable ideas. Thanks, Charlene.


    • oldthingsrnew May 26, 2012 at 8:06 pm #

      Becj and I are making soup tonight as we try to decide on the cover picture. Praying for guidance.


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