On The Porch
Onisha Ellis
My friend DiVoran and I were having a lively chat one day when get over it came up. On the surface it seems like a rude, heartless thing to say, but is it?
I remember the times I said “get over it and move on” to my teenage daughter after her first big heartbreak. She really hated when I said that, but what I was really saying was, work through this, stop letting it control you.
It takes courage, faith and work to overcome a broken heart, hurt feelings and disappointments. We don’t get over it without dealing with the situation. These are the actions I use when I need to get over it.
First I pray. I let God know I am counting on Him for help to accomplish these steps.
- Determine to accept the situation. I don’t have to like it.
- Accept responsibility for my actions. Yes, even if I feel justified.
- Grieve the loss. I believe a time of grieving is a vital part of healing.
- Choose to let go of the pain or anger. I can’t heal as long as I am hanging on to it.
- Best of all, forgive. Carrying a grudge can be a mighty heavy load.
Do I do this everyday and in every situation? Nope, but I wish I did. Guess I’m still learning.
Old Things R New 