Be careful when you ask for romance on Valentine’s Day

16 Feb

Walking by Faith, Not by Sight

Janet Perez Eckles

Reblogged February 16, 2020

I ended up a bit muddled this week and posted Judy’s blog a day early and reblogged Janet’s a day late. Numbers tend to confuse me-Onisha

February 14, 2020

“I’ll be honest with you,” a friend said as we waited for our food at our favorite restaurant. “I want true love. I want to cry out, “Help, I’m married to a man made of stone.” I wish just once, on Valentine’s Day, he would show a little romance.”

Way deep inside, many women want the same. They want to be cherished, desired and romanced. Some receive it, others cry out for it and some never taste it, not even on Valentine’s Day.

Then disappointment invites self-pity. And both become her companion at night. But all changes when wisdom comes. The wisdom to recognize that love, genuine and lasting, trumps romance every time.

Romance vs. Love

That’s because contrary to love, romance is simply this:

Romance is the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person associated with love. (Reference:

Who wants a simple, temporary pleasurable feeling? Maybe the woman at the well made this mistake during her journey. She looked for romance, but remained hungry for something more. She searched for true love, but found fake expressions instead. And as she desired a lifetime commitment, she found temporary satisfaction wrapped in discouragement.

Nothing has changed today. All the above are true. Similar to the woman at the well, we carry our own jar of insecurities, secret longings and romantic desires.

And as the woman at the well did, we need to put down that jar. When she did, Jesus, the lover of her soul, arrived. He spoke into her emptiness. He set her free. And with the living water He offered her, He quenched her thirst for security and misguided romance.

Jesus offers the same living water today.

He says, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life” (John 4:13).

And with each trickle from that spring of water, we fill our cup with these five truths:

  1. Romance is simply the vase that holds the roses of love.
  2. The fake Hollywood kind of love is deceiving. Jesus’s love is genuine and never-ending.
  3. Only Jesus can fill the emptiness.
  4. Instead of looking for love in all the sad places, we embrace the joy only His love can bring.
  5. We learn to rely on Jesus’ love, trust that its constant, abundant and unconditional.

Let’s Pray

Father help me discern between my desire for romance and my need for love. Create in me a hunger for You and a thirst for Your living water. And grant me the wisdom to recognize and receive them. In Jesus’ name.

  • What is your heart thirsty for?
  • Who loves you with an everlasting love?
  • Have you found true love yet?



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